Two days before Rosie Jacobs called the police to accuse her latest boyfriend of assault she wrote him a soppy love poem addressed to ‘My Wookie’.
‘My beautiful wookie, I am grateful for you every night and day, when you hold my hand and show me the way,’ the poem sent to Matt Shir began.
‘You wrap your legs around me in the night, your arms in mine, holding me tight.’
Jacobs went on to write she never wanted a life without Shir, telling him after they had ‘battled such pain’ there was ‘absolutely nothing that can break us’.
‘I love you Matt – with all that I am,’ she finished the poem. ‘Thank you for being my partner, soul mate, my lover, best friend, my man.’
Two days before Rosie Jacobs accused her latest boyfriend of assault she wrote him a soppy love poem addressed to ‘My Wookie’. ‘My beautiful wookie, I am grateful for you every night and day, when you hold my hand and show me the way,’ the poem sent to Matt Shir began
Jacobs (pictured) wrote she never wanted a life without Shir, telling him there was ‘absolutely nothing that can break us’. ‘I love you Matt – with all that I am,’ she finished the poem. ‘Thank you for being my partner, soul mate, my lover, best friend, my man’
Jacobs hooked up with Shir months after her separation from husband Steve and the couple lived together in her apartment at Bronte. The relationship deteriorated in the second half of last year and ended in January. Shir is pictured outside court on Thursday
The poem, penned on January 8, was tendered in a sentencing hearing on Thursday at Sydney’s Downing Centre Local Court where Shir has pleaded guilty to assaulting Jacobs.
Shir, a former AFL player who Jacobs also called ‘Ragnar’ after Viking hero Ragnar Lodbrok, is now fighting to avoid a criminal conviction over an unwanted cuddle.
Barely 48 hours after Jacobs – the ex-wife of TV weatherman Steve Jacobs – wrote the poem to Shir he had broken into her home in Sydney’s eastern suburbs.
Once inside the Bronte apartment they had once shared with Steve and Rosie’s two daughters he had embraced Jacobs after she told him to go away.
He says he was trying to comfort her. She says his behaviour was intimidating.
Steve Jacobs has written a reference for Shir in which he describes him as ‘stable, kind, caring, reliable and generous with his time.’
The love poem was among a string of emails between Shir, 39, and Jacobs, 41, which detail the last three days of the relationship in an affidavit written by him.
On Wednesday, January 8, Jacobs was talking about the couple cementing their union. By Friday, January 10, she was apparently taunting him about other men.
Shir, a former AFL player who Jacobs called ‘Ragnar’ after Viking hero Ragnar Lodbrok, is now fighting to avoid a criminal conviction over an unwanted cuddle. The former couple is pictured
Steve Jacobs has written a reference for Shir in which he describes his ex-wife’s latest boyfriend as ‘stable, kind, caring, reliable and generous with his time.’ Steve and Rosie Jacobs are pictured
Jacobs suggested to Shir they find a new home together just hours before the couple split
The afternoon after Jacobs sent the poem to Shir she sent him a sent a one-line email: ‘Let’s get out of Bronte,’ followed by a real estate listing in nearby Woollahra.
That was at 3.12pm and the relationship would be over by the end of the day.
‘In the days immediately before the [Bronte] incident Rose had reached a point where she simply would not listen to my entreaties to stop drinking excessively,’ Shir wrote in his affidavit.
Following a ‘pleasant meal at a local hotel’ on the Thursday, Jacobs purchased three bottles of wine, according to Shir, and the pair parted company.
‘I decided that I could no longer remain in her life and an argument arose which is referred to in other emails…’ Shir said in his affidavit.
At 8.51pm Jacobs sent Shir another email with the subject ‘Wow’ describing how she felt about their break-up that night.
‘Well, I must say, that is without doubt the lowest, most cowardly exit I have ever witnessed in my lifetime,’ she wrote.
‘Words can’t begin to describe my emotions right now – but if I’m honest, perhaps it’s not even shock. And that’s what tells me, ultimately – there is ZERO coming back from this.
‘I understand you were sideways drunk Matt (not me – I was the one who said let’s go home and cuddle up).
Rosie Jacobs entered a relationship with Matt Shir after her split with TV weatherman husband Steve Jacobs in 2018. Shir walked out on Jacobs in January and the next night when he came to her apartment she called police. Jacobs and Shir are pictured
Rosie demanded Shir return the key to her apartment in an email sent the day after they broke up. She threatened him with seeking an apprehended violence order if he did not comply
‘But we got home – you made love to me – you told me you were proud of me – you left to go get pizza – and then THIS? dear GOD! WTF?’
‘This is the lowest of the low. I want to thrive in this life. And bizarrely – when you’re not around, I actually do. And you do also, when you’re not with me.
What Steve Jacobs said about his ex-wife’s last boyfriend Matt Shir
Steve Jacobs wrote a reference for Matt Shir which was tendered to court:
‘To whom it may concern,
I was in a relationship and married to Rose Jacobs for 12 years and we have two children. Our marriage broke down and we separated at the end of 2017. We agreed to share custody of the children week on, week off.
Rose has endured various problems for which she receives treatment. In the interest of my children, I do not wish to detail these problems for this hearing.
After Rose ended her relationship with Mathew Shir, I contacted him through a mutual friend to ask how the children were doing under Rose’s care. I wanted his opinion on their well-being.
While Mathew was in a relationship with Rose, many of the mothers from [an eastern suburbs school] where our children attend, commented to me that Matt was always stable, kind, caring, reliable and generous with his time helping Rose and taking care of the children. Since contacting him I have also witnessed these same traits. ‘
‘It’s pretty bloody obvious what needs to happen now.
‘You can do anythign and evgerythign in your power from this day forward – but I promise you one thing… this is THE END for me.’
Jacobs wrote she had been suffering anxiety and depression over her relationship with Shir and she agreed they should separate permanently.
‘We are better off apart. Ne regrets. Fond memories. I’ll always hold a place in my heart for you. But right now – I MUST take care of my recovery. And that means ending this relationship.’
‘Enjoy your pizza.’
Shir responded shortly after midday the next day in an email which began: ‘Rose you can think what you want and blame people.’
‘To see you go and buy three bottles last night on way home after a few beers tells me you’re in a bad way. The night before and your behaviour… seriously you need help and help now.
‘Go and tell your close friends the bloody truth so they can now start picking up the pieces because I’m not there any more.
‘Please look after yourself and girls and do the right thing and be a better person for yourself firstly and them also. Love matt xx’.
At 6.41 that evening Jacobs sent Shir another email with the subject ‘key’.
‘Dear Matt, Please be advised that I want my house key returned to me immediately,’ she wrote.
‘If you do not return my key, quit contacting my family and friends and slandering my reputation, and contacting me with your threats and harassment then I will be seeking an AVO and restraining order against you.
‘This is an official warning, Rose.’
Shir’s solicitor Greg Goold said his client’s behaviour in Jacobs’ apartment had to be seen in the context of a relationship that until a day earlier had been intimate. ‘Sometimes people have major barnies and within 24 hours everything’s back to normal,’ Mr Goold said
After demanding Shir return her apartment key Jacobs told him in another email she had visited a ‘friend’ while on holiday in Bali last year
Another email landed in Shir’s inbox one minute later, referring to a holiday Jacobs had taken in Bali in December 2019, which Shir said in his affidavit he understood was for a yoga retreat.
‘At that time, we were in a monogamous relationship (so I thought),’ he wrote in his affidavit. ‘I had been faithful to her and was not in any other relationship from the time we met.
‘Towards the end of the Bali trip I was contacted by Rose who required me to advance her money in order for her to check out of the hotel where she was staying.
‘As a result of that I sent her sufficient funds to check out, get transport to the airport and return to Sydney.’
The email also referred to a Canadian commando called Dylan Nash who Jacobs had met in Vanuatu and embarked on a relationship with after her split from Steve.
‘By the way, yes I was with a “friend” in Bali,’ Jacobs wrote. ‘Oh – and Dylan is in Brisbane and is coming to stay with me so I’ll need that key ASAP to give to him. Thanks.’
Shortly after Rosie split from Steve Jacobs she began seeing Canadian commando Dylan Nash (pictured) but within months had moved on with Shir. After they split Rosie asked Shir to hand back the key to her Bronte apartment because Nash was coming to stay with her
Shir did not open that second email until three days later, by which time he had been charged with assault.
‘Had I opened the email I don’t believe I would have gone to the premises,’ he said in his affidavit.
‘When I did receive that email, it caused me some discomfort given the circumstances of us breaking up only days before, which included intimate and affectionate time together.
‘Had I read my emails… I would have known that I was being peremptorily replaced in favour of Dylan.
‘There would have been no way that I would have gone to Rose’s premises with that in mind.’
About six hours after the ‘key’ emails were sent Shir let himself into Jacobs’ home, damaging a privacy screen. He took off his shirt, tried to give her a bear hug and refused her requests to leave.
Shir’s solicitor Greg Goold said his client’s behaviour in the apartment had to be seen in the context of a relationship that until a day earlier had been intimate.
‘Sometimes people have major barnies and within 24 hours everything’s back to normal,’ he said.
Deputy Chief Magistrate Michael Allen said: ‘On any view of it there’s no hostility.’
‘Twenty four hours prior they’re in a relationship. This is, on any view of it, a low-level assault.’
Mr Allen will sentence Shir next month.
How Rosie Jacobs left her ‘unhappy’ marriage to weatherman Steve
Rosie, 41, recently chopped and dyed blonde her brunette locks (pictured) and has a new corporate hosting gig with financial services company Adviser Ratings
Rosie and Steve Jacobs met on the set of Channel 9’s Today, where she was a producer, and married in Bali in May 2010. She announced their separation in March 2018.
The couple had moved to Vanuatu in mid-2017, in what friends described as a ‘last-ditch attempt’ to save their marriage. They have two daughters: Isabella, nine, and seven-year-old Francesca.
The couple sold their matrimonial home at Coogee in Sydney’s eastern suburbs for $4.6million in April 2018 and Rosie bought a two-bedroom apartment at nearby Bronte for $1.56million in November that year.
The same month Steve told WHO magazine he had been dealt a few ‘curve balls’ since his separation from Rosie.
Shortly after Rosie split from Steve she began seeing Canadian commando Dylan Nash but had moved on with retired AFL footballer Matt Shir by October 2018.
In February 2019 Jacobs celebrated her 40th birthday with Shir, who had moved into her Bronte apartment, in Bali. In June that year she wrote about her marriage breakdown in an article for Whimn.
‘Two years ago I decided to leave my unhappy marriage, after years of trying desperately to make it work,’ she wrote.
‘As a result of this separation, I’ve experienced plenty of anxiety and depression, often blaming and questioning myself.’
Steve, 53, left his role as Today weatherman last December and has been presenting a breakfast radio program this year.
Rosie, 41, who recently chopped and dyed blonde her brunette locks, has a new corporate hosting gig with Adviser Ratings, a company which helps people find qualified financial advice.